More often than not, when autism is used as a metaphor it perpetuates and expands damaging misconceptions, particularly around capacity for empathy.Read More
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I do not often allow myself to consider that part of my neuro-difference is social. It is easier to walk away from a restaurant or bar and feel that my nervous system's depleted response is a result of the lights, reverberating sound, or symphony of smells, than it is to admit that the sheer effort of engaging is part of the picture.Read More
The fascinating thing about my “special interest,” something that supposedly makes me “more autistic,” is that it makes me look much less autistic.Read More
The word congruent means "in agreement or harmony." In time, it registered that a counselor is being congruent when our words match our demeanor.
Why is interacting with incongruence so much work? Practically speaking, it means that during those "I'm fine" conversations I am trying to track two different levels of experience - the spoken and publicly acknowledged, and the inner, authentic experience of the person I am engaging with.Read More
You have probably heard someone say a version of the following: "We are all on the spectrum." Or, "Everyone is a little bit autistic." It tends to be well-meaning, a way of reflecting shared experience and humanity and perhaps social awkwardness. However, like so many things, well meaning or not the phrase is problematic. There may be an intention of connection behind the phrase, but it feels more like erasure.Read More