Weldon Wellness

Future Home of Autistic and Well and Autistic Empaths

Autistic Empaths is a project and book in the making about sensory processing sensitivity as a trait and how it manifests on the Autism Spectrum (ASD), in Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), ADD/ADHD, synesthesia, BPD, addiction, and other conditions. Sensory processing sensitivity is the official term for what has been called the trait of high sensitivity; people who self-identify with it call themselves Highly Sensitive People, or HSPs. The trait includes increased empathy, depth of processing, overstimulation, and sensitivity to subtleties.

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In which I admit ASD is a social disorder

I do not often allow myself to consider that part of my neuro-difference is social. It is easier to walk away from a restaurant or bar and feel that my nervous system's depleted response is a result of the lights, reverberating sound, or symphony of smells, than it is to admit that the sheer effort of engaging is part of the picture.

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On congruency and communication

The word congruent means "in agreement or harmony." In time, it registered that a counselor is being congruent when our words match our demeanor.

Why is interacting with incongruence so much work? Practically speaking, it means that during those "I'm fine" conversations I am trying to track two different levels of experience - the spoken and publicly acknowledged, and the inner, authentic experience of the person I am engaging with.

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The spectrum is wide - but everyone is not on it

You have probably heard someone say a version of the following: "We are all on the spectrum." Or, "Everyone is a little bit autistic." It tends to be well-meaning, a way of reflecting shared experience and humanity and perhaps social awkwardness. However, like so many things, well meaning or not the phrase is problematic. There may be an intention of connection behind the phrase, but it feels more like erasure.

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